Bear with me - Nobody even really needs to read this - I just need to express my feelings...
Isn't swinging a lifestyle? A lifestyle much like Monogamy?
I hear a lot of posts about taking no for an answer from your spouse when this comes up but what about the shoe being on the other foot?
What if you said "no" to monogamy if it were asked for simply because it was not the kind of lifestyle you wanted to be part of.
I suppose my question is this: why is swinging something a married couple has to discuss and drop if either of them has a problem with it?
In this same couple one of them obviously has a problem with monogamy - why then isn't monogamy dropped as well? Why isn't monogamy subject to the same rules of unanimous acceptance as swinging?
I know! I know! because one of them will resent the other later for being forced into something they didn't feel comfortable with or agree with completely but then isn't the reverse true as well? Wouldn't the swinger potentially feel resentment later for being forced to accept a lifestyle he/she didn't feel comfortable with or agree with?
Is it society's stigma since swinging is considered alternative and monogamy the default? If so - by who's definition is monogamy the default? And even if it IS the default isn't the swinging mindset predicated - at least in part - on the willingness to define your own set of social values and defaults?
I suppose there is every reason why the swinger should take no for answer, not push, etc.
I just feel very alone sometimes because swingers are always the ones hiding what they do. It seems we have to be ashamed of who and what we are unless we are in the presence of other swingers. God forbid this issue arises with your spouse and you have to suppress/hide it from him/her.
Oh well, no answers. Just the way it is I suppose. I wonder if this is the same crap gay people go through?
I wonder if we shouldn't form a swinger's rights movement.
Hmmm... I think I'll shut up now...
