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Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN
Mrs. O said,
That is why we (OhioCouple) don't see single men in the lifestyle in a favorable light.
Just needed to repeat the important part.
don't see single men in the lifestyle in a favorable light.
A favorable light? Just curious as I am a single male in the lifestyle. My political beliefs cannot account for the fact that you know single males are a part of this board.
Julie runs the board and she has stated many times that singles are welcome and a big part of the lifestyle.
Who do you put in a favorite light? It obviously is based on marital status huh?
Hey lets face it we are in an unfavorable light. I guess I am not welcome here. I spent a lot of time talking to Roxy last night, but now I see her point. I cannot take the insults and I am sure that was a factor in the post....you win. I choose not to fight. But I would never publisize it based on category.....I wouldn't say "I won't swing with an Ohio female that insults me".
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Put a plug in it O |
Damn, boy. You need to cool your thrusters. Did you not read her post?!?!? Her case was quite unambiguous, and very accurate, as most any couple who has been in swinging for any length of time can attest. The sad fact is that there ARE a lot of single guys out here who are, not to put too fine a point on it, annoying little pests in the swinging world. Why the hell do you think so damn many couples write, often repeatedly, in all caps NO SINGLE MALES in their ads? Or set their assorted IMs to "invisible" mode? It's because they've been haruanged so many times by single guys on the prowl for pussy and they've had enough!
How many ways does it have to be said to get the message across? Most couples are NOT looking for single men to play with. PERIOD. This is not what most swingers are about. MOST swinger couples are looking for other COUPLES to play with. GET IT?
Someone put it real well when they said that single men complaining about not being scooped up in the swingers' arena is like a single guy going to a lesbian bar and bitching because he didn't get laid there either. And NO, it's NOT a matter of ALL single men being bad people; in the main it is simply a matter of (1.) a higher than normal incidence of single guys behaving badly, and (2.) swinging being an activity wherein few single men are desired (rather like going to a football game and expecting everyone to play baseball instead).
You guys really need to quit whining, and face the reality that this is a venue wherein single men are not a required element for the most part. To repeat, your coming into a swingers group and expecting to be greeted with open arms is like going to a pizza parlor and demanding a hamburger, and then getting pissy when you don't get it. You may occasionally find a pizza parlor that also serves hamburgers, but that is going to be a damned rare occurrence. DEAL WITH IT.