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Originally posted by Perseus
Hmm... But if you had had a bad experience with a couple or single girl because they were flakey or jerky, they wouldn't hurt the reputation of couples or women? I understand what Bob has been saying all along, he just pushes buttons to hard.
I have been around some couples I wouldn't swing with because of thier personallity just like I have dated women I would never go near again... *shrug* |
Whew! Hasn't this been an active thread tonight.
Perseus, I understand what you are saying. We have had a bad experience with a couple, never had one with a single girl (can't find one) and no it didn't taint couples. Why? Because bad couples aren't lurking around every corner (In our experience so far). Bad experiences with *supposedly* single men (you can never be sure) on the other hand are. Quite often they are cheaters or arm chair masturbationists, looking for an easy lay, and disrespectful of a couples relationship.
We have met with couples, somewhere in the area of 20 or 30 paired couples. We only sexually connected with a small hand full. Of those 20 to 30 couples only two misrepresented themselves. Now mind you I said actually met with, not just exchanged e-mail with. We have probably exchanged e-mail with roughly a 100 or better, over the course of a year. When we did not have e-mail capability blocked from single males, we probably received roughly 300 e-mails or so in less than a week from single males. I don't think I need to express the type of e-mails they sent, I'm sure everyone can figure it out for themselves. Of that 300, maybe three had something that made us pay attention.
It doesnt take a rocket scientist to do the math.
100 couples in one year = A dozen or so bad ones
300 single men in one week = three good ones
I have my instant messaging systems set on invisible for yahoo and my AIM account set where that if I don't have a name personally added to the list of friends, they can't see me period. Why? Single men, married cheaters, sex hounds.
That is
WHY we don't care to be contacted by single men. If we want one, for sex, we will find them in avenues such as this board. There are a few single men on this site that we would not mind traveling the distance to meet, if only for nothing more than dinner. There are a few single men on this site that are a good representation of what we like in couples. There are a
LOT of single men that have come through on this board that are as disgusting as the ones that contacted us in that 'one week' or via messaging services that we would NEVER want to meet.
A good case in point that you can find right here on this board is the Personals and Traveling Swingers forums. Take a stroll through them. How many are *single* men, vs. single women or couples? The mass majority are single men and of that majority you will see that they only ever posted one time. Read the content of their posts.... Enough said.
That is why we (OhioCouple) don't see single men in the lifestyle in a favorable light.