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BettyAnnMBSC · 06-19-2003, 10:58 PM

Now we're getting into some intersting dialog...

You know, I have to agree on these issues -- at least from an anthropologic viewpoint.

Men hold the role of breadwinner - hunter - protector
Woman of home maker and caretaker

Then if that's the case in general, and if we argue that humans are not really inclined to monogamy -- can we argue whether women would rather be with women? It seems for the home and hearth (and cuddle factor) that they would.

Though, if we remove men from the equation then we lose reproductive motives as well as the breadwinner function.

Is it then that couples don't ask single men to play because what we have is really two issues at key point:

1) humans are not inherently monogamous -- he wants to have sex with other women. but since she can reproduce - he'd rather she didn't have sex with other men.
2) women would rather have a woman around. she wants to have sex with other women.

He accepts that she can have another woman solely so that he can too -- she accepts that he sleeps with the other woman so that she can too?

If this is true (at least in part), then the debate over guys feeling left out is a dead discussion -- there is no resolution to the above scenario that includes a single male addition.

It also means that the only purpose for the male in this small segment of interpersonal association is to provide food and protection == IF another male is allowed in, it is only because he brought the new woman.

This then leads to a debate (hopefully another thread) in favor of polyamory and polygamy involving multiple women...

Of course, this could be too that:

Most men find the idea of two women making love as a sexual attraction while at the same time, they find any thought of two men making any sexual contact as very repulsive. Therefor, the male partner in many relationships will not encourage the introduction of another man when he will encourage the introduction of another woman. And we women are known to do many things just "because he likes it so much".... If this then is the case, then again - there is no hope for the single man in a coupled relationship of this type.

06-19-2003, 10:58 PM	#52 (permalink)
BettyAnnMBSC Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 261 Location: Myrtle Beach South Carolina Status: F half of bi cpl	Now we're getting into some intersting dialog... You know, I have to agree on these issues -- at least from an anthropologic viewpoint. Men hold the role of breadwinner - hunter - protector Woman of home maker and caretaker Then if that's the case in general, and if we argue that humans are not really inclined to monogamy -- can we argue whether women would rather be with women? It seems for the home and hearth (and cuddle factor) that they would. Though, if we remove men from the equation then we lose reproductive motives as well as the breadwinner function. Is it then that couples don't ask single men to play because what we have is really two issues at key point: 1) humans are not inherently monogamous -- he wants to have sex with other women. but since she can reproduce - he'd rather she didn't have sex with other men. 2) women would rather have a woman around. she wants to have sex with other women. He accepts that she can have another woman solely so that he can too -- she accepts that he sleeps with the other woman so that she can too? If this is true (at least in part), then the debate over guys feeling left out is a dead discussion -- there is no resolution to the above scenario that includes a single male addition. It also means that the only purpose for the male in this small segment of interpersonal association is to provide food and protection == IF another male is allowed in, it is only because he brought the new woman. This then leads to a debate (hopefully another thread) in favor of polyamory and polygamy involving multiple women... Of course, this could be too that: Most men find the idea of two women making love as a sexual attraction while at the same time, they find any thought of two men making any sexual contact as very repulsive. Therefor, the male partner in many relationships will not encourage the introduction of another man when he will encourage the introduction of another woman. And we women are known to do many things just "because he likes it so much".... If this then is the case, then again - there is no hope for the single man in a coupled relationship of this type.