Bear_n_Bunny -- I think that the "why" answers that have been provided have been very thorough and well prepared. It seems to me the question that some want addressed is not as much the "why" but instead a question of "what can I do to make myself attractive to couples and swingers?"
Some folks will read this thread and apply some of our points in reverse (ie: not ask immediately if you "want a big black cock in your ass?") and instead apply the socialization lessons they learned as children.
Some folks, I fear, are here for nothing other than distraction and creation of un-needed drama (another thing single men often bring to a couple relationship). I do understand that feelings get hurt on issues like this -- I've been there myself as a 225# woman -- too many times.
I must say, I am enjoying the thread -- made me actually think about some issues. Thanks for the story about the BBS
