Maybe as an idea for undertanding "the shoe on the other foot" might I suggest this...
If you want to truly understand why many couples and women don't explore single men....
create a couple or female screen name and profile with Yahoo. Then take that screen into a chat room for "romance in x-town" Don't say anything except "HI" to the room and then wait.
See what the single men are actually doing to damage the road for everyone. You'll be appaled!
All of this said, please don't think that I never meet with single guys. We actually prefer MFM or FMF over MFMF -- MFMF gets too busy
And if we ever do meet and he or I decides that "it's not right" then it's probably not solely because you are single... Find the other issues or ask...