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but when you start criticizing why we are single, you are insulting those of us who had to make hard decisions concerning family
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The original post asked a "why" question. I provided some "why" answers. Bottom line is that a couple may elect to include whoever they want to for whatever reason they want (or don't) and the potential partners reserve the same privilege.
What if we changed this topic slightly? What if we were discussing the why issue of race, age, sexual orientation, education level, social class, height, weight, hair color, breast size, penis size, financial stability... need I go on?
Marital status is one of many considerations considered when selecting a potential partner. It's not (IMHO) reasonable to ask a question and then attack the answers provided. Even if the answers are wrong.
Do any of us think that couples or women never consider "if you're single then why?" It is a fact that women are attracted to men that are already with another woman -- go figure! It's that old "if she wants him then I do too" and many men will recall the same situation over the years...
In answering this question, I am not attacking single men or defending couples -- I'm simply stating my observations. Use them if you want or ignore them if you want -- but please don't take offense to my observations, they aren't directed at anyone in particular....
unless of course, the shoe fits 