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As I have said, tomorrow you could be single, if you still want to swing
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Now, I have found that divorced/widowed men are NOT the same as single men in general.
What many of us complain most about is not the simple fact that the man is single -- but instead, how single men generally act. Those unsolicited nude photos, the fakers and game players, and those guys who ask all too forwardly "hey bitch, - wanna f*ck?" -- those are the single guys we have trouble with.
There are guys within a couple that act that way sometimes -- but it's not a "once-in-awhile" thing with single guys. That behavior seems to be the
cours de jour
Understand too -- there seem to be more couples looking for 1) single bi female for FMF or 2) couple for FF while hubbys watch or 3) couple for full swap; than there are couples looking for a str8 single male for MFM.
Part of the issue then is opportunity -- the single guy is not the commodity of the day and is very often
nongrata persona.
As for the 1:1 issue -- IMHO, that's not
swinging that's
fooling around or
some on the side even when it's an open and acceptable arrangement. And all too often, the 1:1 is really
cheating and few of us want to participate in that scene....
Just a few opinions for what they're worth.... I'm not saying it's right -- just expressing my opinion. If you wanna talk about
the sting of inequality then maybe we should consider the plight of the short (under 5'5" man) man -- coupled or not.... or the pain that some
women of size often endure.
There is reason and reality to social inequality. Some people make that topic their life's work. Sometimes it's painful but unless we seek to clearly understand mores and values, issues and desires; unless we seek to truly understand the issue at question, there can be no adapting by those who face these inequities. We
must remain aware of the very real emotional effects of inequlity and discriminatory behavior, but we must also try to understand the issues beyond simply exclaiming "
it's not fair."
Maybe it's not fair --
so let's create some understanding... 
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I wonder if women who weigh 125# ever consider, that when you say "I'm fat, I'm so fat" in front of a woman that weighs 180-200# plus that what you're telling her is "damn! you're really fat!"