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Originally posted by JustAskJulie
I believe that...we tend to do the things that we like done to ourselves. |
In this one sentence lies the motivation for all of my interpersonal relationships! (minus the "when servicing the same sex" part).
For me, when it comes to pleasing a woman, either in the bedroom or out, I tend to think to myself, would I like this or not? Would this be comfortable to me or not?
I love to give back rubs, and I'm very good at it. That's probably because I love to recieve back rubs, not only does this feel good, it gives the administrator of the rub a chance to touch the reciever in a way that is very personal. For me, that's a special thing, to be accepted into someone's "personal space" for that purpose. It gives you an opportunity to make that person feel comfortable about allowing you into their personal space. Once that person becomes comfortable with you being there, they'll invite you to be there more often, allowing you to get closer.
It is this admission to their personal space which is very special to me.....now follow my thinking here if you can.....this is also a very strong reason I like tan lines.
WHAT?!?!? How did he go from back rubs to tan lines? If you think about it, not everyone is allowed in everyone else's personal space, by the same token not everyone is allowed to see what didn't get tanned....so I feel like when I see a highly contrasting tan line, I'm being allowed to see something that not everyone else has seen! This gives me a large thrill and makes the encounter special for me. (ok, I strayed a bit there, I'll get back to my point now.)
My point with the back rub thing was to indicate that we do for others what we want done to ourselves, because that's what we know brings
US the most pleasure. We share that with others and hope that they enjoy it as much as we do.