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Originally posted by arcpl4mfm
Especially considering that infidelity is why I divorced my 1st husband. |
This part of your post is what says it all for me. Personally, I don't think ya'll are ready for any sort of swinging experience. It sounds as though you are equating infidelity with swinging, when the two have absolutely nothing in common. I, too, divorced my first husband for infidelity (among other reasons) but I don't perceive what my husband and I do now as being remotely close to it. What we do, we share together, knowingly, willingly and openly.
Another point too, is that you said your little one is about to be born. Topsy, turvey hormones could be causing a lot of your inner turmoil. Are you sure that you aren't perceiving that his being with another woman is because you don't feel so good about yourself and your own body at the moment? Did you feel this way prior to becoming pregnant or has the issue just recently come up? It is really hard to put things in a proper perspective when your body is constantly changing.
I think ya'll should just let the issue rest for now and not think about actually swinging for a while. Enjoy the birth of your newest addition, get settled back into your normal lives and then pick up the discussion again. You may discover that you will feel differently 6 months from now.
Good, luck and congrats on your newest to be!