[Coupleerotic22]

Thank you all for the replies. And thank you for taking the question in the tenor it was asked. I really am just trying to understanding the psychology behind it.

I understand it is a personal preference, and I respect that, I am just interested in what factors make people draw the line there. I know where I draw my lines, and why. I can certainly see why some lines are drawn, SS I am just fuzzy on frankly. But to each their own.

For those of you that started or still are soft swap, can you expound on why you drew the line there and what made you decide to move the line?

two4youinswva - I love the pool analogy, it makes sense. I have always been the cannon ball kind of guy I guess, lol.

Learning - I have read a number of your post. You seem relatively new to the lifestyle (as are we) and relatively young (as we are not, lol). I am not sure what your self-esteem issues are, but you seem to be a very intelligent, caring and well spoken person. And if you are at all like my wife you are FAR more attractive than you give yourself credit for. Regardless, intelligence, good conversation and confidence are some the sexiest attributes a woman could have. I hope you get you issues resolved because you sound like a great person.

ViSexual - If you don't mind me asking, how was going from SS to FS the downfall in your swinging? Not trying to pry, just curious. You won't hurt my feelings if tell me its none of my business.

JustAskJulie - that is interesting you are primarily SS, I guess I just assumed your were full. Maybe because you run the board and wrote the book, lol. Anyway it is good to learn something new (for me anyway) about our lovely host.

If one thing has come out of this for me, it is that I am more interesting in entertaining the idea of playing with SS couples. I may not have a strong grasp of the "why" for SS, but as socolais said, it's just one more item to add to the menu of fun.