[socolais]

I think this is a very good question - it's one we pondered for quite a while. While my wife and I generally prefer full swap, soft swap can be a mind blowing experience.

When we first started swinging, we tried soft swap first. I guess a lot of couples are like that too, and that promotes the general feeling that soft swappers limit themselves due to insecurities. That of course is one reason, but there's more.

For us, swinging is a sexual adventure. We go to a party with no expectations of getting laid and just having a sexual good time. Yes, of course we hope for a fun connection and some sexual interaction, but the real important objective is sexual excitement for both of us. Soft swapping is extended foreplay and in some ways, that's about as exciting as things can get. Soft swapping is no less of an adventure than any other activity. When my wife and I get back together, we have just as much fun whether it was full or soft swapping. We can continue the tease with more foreplay or get down to business with some really intense grinding.

soft swapping is just another item on the menu of fun