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Coupleerotic22 · 06-25-2010, 11:10 AM

I am just curious. I really don't get soft swap. This is in no means a knock on soft swappers, I am just trying to learn and understand.

First, definitions seem to be all over the place. I have seen it defined as; FF play only; oral only, finish with spouse; oral only but finish with swap partner; just watching each other (I don't even think of that as swap, just exhibitionism/voyeurism); and maybe another variation or two I am forgetting.

Second, and the real question, what is the real barrier to going full swap? The risk of STD is only slightly less, if at all. Oral really isn't that much less intimate than intercourse, so fear of jealousy of one over the other doesn't make sense to me.

Can you guys help me understand the motivation behind soft swap?

TIA
Mr. Couple

06-25-2010, 11:10 AM	#1 (permalink)
Coupleerotic22 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 1,130 Location: Aabama Bear Cave - Don't poke the bear Status: M. Male - MrsCoupleErotic's other half	Understanding soft swap I am just curious. I really don't get soft swap. This is in no means a knock on soft swappers, I am just trying to learn and understand. First, definitions seem to be all over the place. I have seen it defined as; FF play only; oral only, finish with spouse; oral only but finish with swap partner; just watching each other (I don't even think of that as swap, just exhibitionism/voyeurism); and maybe another variation or two I am forgetting. Second, and the real question, what is the real barrier to going full swap? The risk of STD is only slightly less, if at all. Oral really isn't that much less intimate than intercourse, so fear of jealousy of one over the other doesn't make sense to me. Can you guys help me understand the motivation behind soft swap? TIA Mr. Couple