Wife of CyberMWCoulple -
I agree with your assessment, it's the personality and chemistry that count. When meeting a couple socially in person for the first time, we can usually tell fairly quickly if there's a possibility of sex with them in the future. A few of them, we knew it wasn't going to happen even before they sat down, either because it was obvious they'd mis-represented themselves, or they showed up looking as though they hadn't showered in three days. I'd mentioned in an earlier post we've attended meet and greets, and quite often my wife or myself will be immediately attracted to an individual/couple who'll never make the cover of GQ or Vogue. But man oh man, there's just SOMETHING about that person...
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