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Originally Posted by bobcat2712  Some of the issues:
- the gentlemen (for whatever reason) can't get hard ---- our solution - for me to make sure I include her in with myself & partner |
Ok...just a thought...how is this fair for the other guy? I mean, basically you are down to having a FMF while the other guy is left on the sidelines.
For whatever reason he/they can't get it up...it never fails to amaze me that guys seem to forget that they have a tongue and fingers that should still be in working order (I know most guys get embarassed when their shiz don't work and the anxiety of knowing that his wife is over there getting the fucked like there's no tomorrow just adds to the pressure).
Regardless of his lack of performance, have you ever considered just swapping back to your wife and let the other lady go back to her husband? Or do separate rooms so there is less pressure to perform?
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- my wife has a hard time reaching orgasm (we've tried multiple products from various stores with little success)....and the partners I've been with have a much easier time and have been able to have multiple O's.
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I agree that this is a pretty common problem as 1 its way easier for ladies to fake an O or feign interest in a partner b/c we can always use lube...most guys can't just spray or rub lotion on their cock to make it work.
First of all...tell people up front. Most guys view this as a challenge and want to be the one that gets you there. Secondly...define having a hard time getting there? She takes more than 3 seconds to get there?
We have come across quite a few ladies in the LS that barely need to be breathed on to be hitting an orgasm (I kid I kid...altho not by much
) and here it takes me at least 10-15 min of oral to get there. Yeah...not exactly an ego boost when my guy is over there fucking the daylights out of the guy's wife, she's screaming the roof down, and he thinks he's down on a tootsie pop (insert ED for the guy anywhere at this point). There have definitely been times that I have had uncharitable thoughts after a party. Sometimes I chalk it up to guys that are used to having someone that has an easier time to get there...other times its more along the lines of "at least I know why she wants in the LS...dude barely does oral and is done in 2 minutes." Yeah...its frustrating.
Also, as Julie mentioned...when doing same room or being in a playroom/common area at a party/club....there are just too damn many distractions...people milling around, possibly a porn playing in the background, people having sex, etc...and if someone already has a hard time getting there, then all of these things can be the kiss of death for an O.
Most ladies aren't comfortable telling a partner exactly what they want...but if they aren't doing something that works...pipe up. Are there times that I feel like I shouldn't have to 'lend a hand' if the guy isn't doing enough of what I like...sure because I wonder why bother with having a partner if I have to do all the work....but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do to make it a good experience.
Good luck