 Re: mutual satisfaction
Hey BobCat, your wife's problem is probably as common (if not more) than the problem of guys not being able to get it / keep it up in the first place.
I'm in the same boat with her as far as having a hard time cumming. In general, I don't. But in a swinging environment it is very difficult for me to orgasm due to so many distractions. It is frustrating yes, but I've learned to just let it go and enjoy what I do get out of the encounters. I've also learned to not be afraid to help things along. I take a toy with me and/or I use my fingers to pleasure myself while they are doing whatever they are doing. It's not a knock on their ability, it just takes more for me to orgasm with the distractions.
When you combine that with running into the guys who can't get it/ keep it up it becomes even more difficult because they are one tool down. The key there is to encourage them to use the other tools and not get stuck on that one tool they can't use (and then still help out where/if necessary).
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