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DigginIt · 01-20-2010, 11:34 AM

Mrs. Diggs and I have been together for 12 years. We have been through tough times (and still have them now and then) that have tried and tested our relationship. You don't get to 8, 10, 15, 20 years of marriage without trials and tribulations.

So, to the question of Poly? It is fascinating.

I could easily find myself emotionally connected to someone I'm swinging with. Mrs. Diggs and I are very intimate with the couples we play with. Yes there is very primal sex at points but there is also very passionate and tender moments of connection that are also achieved during play. Anyone experiencing these moments have to be affected emotionally on some scale.

I read somewhere, in a magazine that the same hormones that are contributed to producing the 'lust' we experience when we are first falling in love are the same hormones that are produced during psychotic behavior, lol. Often over time, it subsides and is no longer produced like it is when you first met because that 'intrigue' period is gone. It's replaced with lasting memories and for the right couples a true and meaningful love.

Are we too easily distracted by this emotional connection to confuse it and interpret it as 'love'? I think many do. It can be confusing and irrational but I don't think it's love. I love my wife for who she is and who we have become over years of intimacy that I don't believe will be pushed easily aside. Again, maybe we are flirting with disaster. Ask me next year.

Could we let someone in for a period of 'poly' like time with someone, maybe, but in the long run I'm afraid it would only reveal itself to be what it truly was which would be just passing fascination coupled with intrigue and attraction. Not love.

01-20-2010, 11:34 AM	#40 (permalink)
DigginIt Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 969 Location: Florida Status: He writes, she corrects spelling. Swing Lifestyle Name:DigginIt	Re: Swingers, Could you be open to poly? Mrs. Diggs and I have been together for 12 years. We have been through tough times (and still have them now and then) that have tried and tested our relationship. You don't get to 8, 10, 15, 20 years of marriage without trials and tribulations. So, to the question of Poly? It is fascinating. I could easily find myself emotionally connected to someone I'm swinging with. Mrs. Diggs and I are very intimate with the couples we play with. Yes there is very primal sex at points but there is also very passionate and tender moments of connection that are also achieved during play. Anyone experiencing these moments have to be affected emotionally on some scale. I read somewhere, in a magazine that the same hormones that are contributed to producing the 'lust' we experience when we are first falling in love are the same hormones that are produced during psychotic behavior, lol. Often over time, it subsides and is no longer produced like it is when you first met because that 'intrigue' period is gone. It's replaced with lasting memories and for the right couples a true and meaningful love. Are we too easily distracted by this emotional connection to confuse it and interpret it as 'love'? I think many do. It can be confusing and irrational but I don't think it's love. I love my wife for who she is and who we have become over years of intimacy that I don't believe will be pushed easily aside. Again, maybe we are flirting with disaster. Ask me next year. Could we let someone in for a period of 'poly' like time with someone, maybe, but in the long run I'm afraid it would only reveal itself to be what it truly was which would be just passing fascination coupled with intrigue and attraction. Not love.