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HSV2biguy

I do see how the ladies could have that feeling initially. If you think about it, no matter the inherent risks involved in swinging, we take them with a grain of salt while utilizing whatever protection measures we deem fit. Certainly the possibility is out there for the 1:3 becoming anyone. The fact that HSV is not a killer holds little weight in the argument. Having to take any medications or change in routine to minimize outbreaks is not an option to most people.

I have canceled a play date due to a cold, a simple cough and sniffle. I did not want to pass it along to anyone and felt it the right thing to do. My intended play mate was very appreciative of my concern for her well being. That was just a cold, something you get for a few days and never get that one again. Imagine how upset she would have been had I given her my cold? Now, think of the possibility of her contracting HSV from a playmate. How upset would she be then?

I can honestly say, no one wants you to go off and die (well, if you have infected anyone, there may be some) they simply wish you would stop playing. Even you admit that condoms will not stop the spread. Knowing that and the fact that “----Sometimes those who know they are infected spread the virus between outbreaks, when no signs or symptoms are present. This is called "Asymptomatic Transmission." Research also shows that herpes simplex infections are often spread by people who don't know they are infected. These people may have symptoms so mild they don't notice them at all or else don't recognize them as herpes.---“ you can possibly understand why they would want you to no longer be a member of the lifestyle.

Until they actually find a cure for the virus and many other issues, I would not expect any sympathy from potential playmates after you tell them (and I assume you do so before playing. That is the responsible thing to do). I am certain your infection was not a conscious decision. I am equally certain you were upset when you realized who infected you. Put those emotions in play here. Imagine your potential playmates feeling that way toward you. Would you really want that over a simple, and hopefully polite “No Thank you!”? I’d take the refusal any time!

Just my .02