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Originally Posted by SecretAsianMan  I'm not sure if I am polyamorous or not.
I've done both polyamorous & monogamous relationships in the past... I'm currently single and dating (and having sexual relations) with multiple people (and yes, they are all aware that I am non-exclusively dating).
One of my friends says that I cannot be classically defined as either polyamorous or a swinger because I have no primary-partner at this point in time. ((shrug)) Not sure I agree with her definition - but I've never really thought to define myself as polyamorous or as a swinger, either ... so I guess it doesn't really matter. |
The problem with trying to define it is like trying to define what is bisexual.
Are you talking about behavior, or mindset and attitude. There's a lot of people who will have sex with a MOTSS, who do not consider themselves bisexual, and a lot of folks who have never had sex with a MOTSS who do.
Same with polyamory. The question you have to ask yourself is, if you started to develop deeper emotional connection to someone, does that automatically mean you won't develop anything deeper with anyone else, and will back off any others you have? Then you're probably not polyamorous.
If you feel like the fact the you are developing a deeper emotional relationship doesn't mean you won't develop others without sacrificing the first one, then you probably are polyamorous.
If you sort of fall into a situation where you fall in love with two (or more) people at the same time and everything is cool, but you don't really see that happening again, then you may be in a polyamorous relationship, but not be polyamorous in general. Heck, you can be monogamous and love only one person, but that person may love someone else at the same time, so you are in a polyamorous relationship, but yourself be monogamous.
Confused?
