I just get so overwhelmed sometimes when true people, who understand what you might be going through offer their advice through experience.
We're all a little different I suppose....in some ways
We're not diamonds and never will be..... We're more like pearls, and ya know what yucky surroundings pearls came from. That don't mean we cant eat oysters.
We had problems from before we ever met that had to be dealt with, later in life. I'm not saying you guys do, but we did. Just a different viewpoint
The folks above me are telling you the truth, they know why.
I think Vegas is correct in so many ways. If you find your not a diamond though... find the tools to polish what you have and can be, to the best of your abilities. What ever that takes.
You may never be able to swing. But understanding that jealousy/fear and subsiding it, would be better for your relationship, than swinging ever could be, by keeping it, and letting it control you .