[Alura]

I think y'all're on the right track, Mr. Sealover. You have a bit of a distance to go but y'all are talking to each other about the very issue! That's a huge step!

Perhaps you lied to your wife because you were afraid of what she'd do if you told the truth? If so, y'all must first remove that fear to tell the truth. Leave behind forever the concept of "telling each other what you think the other wants to hear."

I'm embarrassed by how many times I've given this advice on this board but here it comes again. Early in our relationship Mrs. Alura and I made a promise to each other. It was that we would never get angry because a question was brought up and that we'd always answer truthfully. "I don't want to talk about it!" was never acceptable. It worked for thirty years for us.

All the advice is good. Talk to your wife, not just about sexual or jealousy issues, but about life. What are her fantasies for a summer vacation? Good Luck! We're pulling for y'all!

Mr. Alura