[ALilOEverything]

I think in a marriage that is no more than average it's probably normal to not talk openly about your fantasies. I feel that being able to talk openly and honestly can make a marriage above average and is a very good start to maybe one day exploring those fantasies. I believe that when you feel like you're both holding back from communicating jealousy can arise. How can you let go of jealousy if you can't be honest or trust that what the other person is telling you is true? You just can't. Start by being open and honest with her and encourage her to do the same. See what happens then and go from there.