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Originally Posted by LikeMinds321  That's all very romantic sounding but not realistic, especially the part about "they are human sex toys with no feeling attached to them." |
I second this. It is unrealistic to think of other people as sex toys. It is also disrespectful. While most swingers go into the lifestyle expecting that we and our loved ones won't develop strong feelings for our playmates, and most of us
don't develop those feelings, your playmates are people. Even if they aren't friends before you meet them via the lifestyle, they deserve respect and consideration at the "casual friend" level. That means you don't willfully do something to hurt or annoy them. You treat them the way you would want to be treated if you were in their place.
It is fine to expect your girlfriend will not fall in love with a playmate, and that her activities are just for fun. But if a playmate thought of me as a "human sex toy", that would not sit well.
I wish you luck whatever you and your girlfriend decide about pursuing casual sex outside your relationship.