[Alex855]

update... Prior to this our conversations were very light hearted and still in fantasyland tone.

Well she is starting to get bolder. And now we have talked very candid about this. The reason this came about was because:

A few weeks ago she almost fucked a friend of hers. I was out of town and she went out to dinner with him (i knew as she told me this prior to going). From what she told me: It was all cool (as usual) but for some reason after a few drinks she wanted to fuck him (this was a first). She said "maybe it's because of the talks we had I dunno". Apparently he cought on to her signals as when they got in the car to leave he kissed her. When he was doppring her off back home things got hot and heavy, soon they found themselves indoors. Inside the house things naturally progressed, he sucked on her tits, grabbed her ass, she grabbed his crotch. But when he was actually going to pull it out she said that she "just freaked! and said I'm not a cheater and I'm not going to cheat". She put a stop to it, apologized and told him to leave.

She called me the minute he left and woke me up. She was embarrrassed and ashamed, and was really sorry for what she had done. I told her she had nothing to be sorry about but that it did bother me a little bit that this went on without my knowledge, but if she would have texted me about how horny she was feeling and that she wanted to fuck him, she would have had my consent. She admitted that she had trouble believing me. As it goes against the nature of every guy. I told her that I didn't know why but it turns me on.

We talked for hours. About how much I love her and how much she loves me and about how we do not want to ruin this great relationship. I told her to me sex is sex, and as I long as I have her heart, and that she still wants to have sex with me (meaning I don't get replaced) that is all that matters to me. Basically the understanding is that they are human sex toys with no feelings attached to them. That is the only way that I am ok with this. I told her that what turns me on is her. Her lust, her desire to just wanting to fuck, and that when she has these desires to tell me and let me in. Not to keep anything to herself as this is a partnership, and this is "OUR" sex life.

We talked about what do I get out of this and I told her. It gets me off, and of course I told her that if this ever happened again "I would expect her to tell me every detail as I was fucking her" just so there isn't any misunderstandings. Thats what I get out of it pleasure. But if she never has that desire again that's fine too as all I want is her.

We decided that involving friends is a bad move as they can get emotionally attached and chaos can follow. There is no timetable nor commitment, basically only if the situation arises. We are still in our talking phase with no plan of going forward but at least we set up some very important ground rules just so there aren't any misunderstandings.

This forum is great as it has helped me understand myself and what she may be thinking. Thank you!