Fuse,
Thank you for validating my feelings and making me feel welcome. And yes I completely agree that it is better for me to feel a little disappointed then for something to happen that could strain or ruin my relationship with my husband. As we have said while talking about it, swinging is about adding, not subtracting.
About the suggestion about going to a vanilla bar and pointing out people we like and talking about it, we do this on an almost daily basis lol. Not so much going to a bar, but if we are watching tv, or out and about we will comment on this person or that one. We even have a little inside joke called the PMS scale. When discussing females we see that we find attractive, we rate them either a P (for Panting), an M(for Moaning) or S (Screamer) for how noisy we think they would be in bed.
Its quite amusing and entertaining. Maybe one day we can actually test our theory on someone
Oh and I plan to hang around the boards, you all seem like a fun group of people to get to know, and a great learning resource.
