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absingleman · 07-04-2009, 03:35 AM

I lost my sex drive for a period of six months after my brain surgery, and it was 18 months after my surgery that I began to experience half of my sexual desire and nearly two more years that I began to actually pursue women for sex. In my case, it was the result of medication lowering my testosterone and endorphin levels according to my doctor.

I was so uninterested in sex that I would laugh when propositioned, and what would normally get me sexually aroused would give me a headache. That was my first clue something was wrong. There was one woman I was friends with that I could not spend more than 30 minutes around because I would get headaches when shortly after we started talking or if she did simple things like smile at me a certain way or wear certain clothes. It took several months to realize that was not normal, and several more to ask my doctor to run some tests to see if it was permanent.

Once he ran some tests and took me off three different medications, I began to return to normal. I'm not as sex driven as I used to be. Partly due to age, partly due to the fact that I went over nine months not wanting anything to do with sex (not the opposite sex, but pursuing the act). But I once again get extremely horny when I see Angelina Jolie's or Rosario Dawson's full pouty lips (I'm a kisser, sorry) or J-Lo's butt in some tight white pants (I'm also a butt man...who knew?) and I don't feel no self loathing or revulsion because of it now.

I also know that I have to like SOMETHING about a person if I'm going to get sexually aroused by her. Its not as automatic as it used to be and I had a long time to accept that. I also know that any arousal or lack there of is because of what I think and feel, not what someone else is or isn't. I may share my sexuality, but it is mine, not anyone else's.

07-04-2009, 03:35 AM	#13 (permalink)
absingleman Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 74 Location: Michigan Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:ABSingleMan	Re: Men and lost sex drives.... I lost my sex drive for a period of six months after my brain surgery, and it was 18 months after my surgery that I began to experience half of my sexual desire and nearly two more years that I began to actually pursue women for sex. In my case, it was the result of medication lowering my testosterone and endorphin levels according to my doctor. I was so uninterested in sex that I would laugh when propositioned, and what would normally get me sexually aroused would give me a headache. That was my first clue something was wrong. There was one woman I was friends with that I could not spend more than 30 minutes around because I would get headaches when shortly after we started talking or if she did simple things like smile at me a certain way or wear certain clothes. It took several months to realize that was not normal, and several more to ask my doctor to run some tests to see if it was permanent. Once he ran some tests and took me off three different medications, I began to return to normal. I'm not as sex driven as I used to be. Partly due to age, partly due to the fact that I went over nine months not wanting anything to do with sex (not the opposite sex, but pursuing the act). But I once again get extremely horny when I see Angelina Jolie's or Rosario Dawson's full pouty lips (I'm a kisser, sorry) or J-Lo's butt in some tight white pants (I'm also a butt man...who knew?) and I don't feel no self loathing or revulsion because of it now. I also know that I have to like SOMETHING about a person if I'm going to get sexually aroused by her. Its not as automatic as it used to be and I had a long time to accept that. I also know that any arousal or lack there of is because of what I think and feel, not what someone else is or isn't. I may share my sexuality, but it is mine, not anyone else's.