[knb2004]

Interesting that you ask this on a forum dedicated to swinging! I have said before on here that I am a student of human behavior, especially relationships and sexuality. Because of that, I participate in this forum, but I also frequently read forums about vanilla relationships and others. You have to remember that many sexual things that seem ordinary to the point of mundane to most visitors here are completely outside the box to many "normal" people.

It is a fact that many women are not just vanilla, but to an extreme extent. Only willing to have sex with the lights off, or with a (very) limited number of acceptable positions. I read one woman who was offended to the point of tears because her hubby wanted to do doggie style. And how many vanilla couples have issues about something as piddly as porn? Us swinging men are lucky not only because our lovely brides like involving others in our sex lives, but because they are much more comfortable with their own sexuality in general. I read one woman on an anti-porn board that was PROUD of the fact that her husband of 12 years had NEVER seen her naked!

So yeah, there are a lot of cold fish out there, and as a result, a lot of frustrated hubbies. It's a shame, but it's reality.

How many women reading this post do you suppose cry over a request for doggie style sex?

It's not just women, either, I can't tell you how many times I've seen men freaking out because their partner had "too many" sexual partners BEFORE THEY EVEN MET, and others who flipped out because their SO had (or wanted) sex toys.

There is so much sexual dysfunction in our society that it's sad. I am convinced that most of it is because of the overriding message that "good girls" are supposed to act in certain ways, or more to the point that "good girls" don't do certain things. Once that message is sufficiently internalized, women are determined to be the aforementioned "good girl" and guys don't want to be with "sluts".

Codswallop, sluts rock!