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Dave_kat · 07-02-2009, 11:10 AM

ok. From our "Dave" here, who also happens to be active duty military.

I'm not going to go into all of the Army regulations here, but simply to mention them to have you keep them in the back of your mind while I tell you the rest of this. I specifically speak of General Order 1 (For you non-military out there, it's the one that specifices that deployed Soldiers will not have sexual relations while deployed).

You have a problem, and the best advice you're going to hear on this is keep your mouth shut. They weren't together when you and Dana hooked up, so you didn't violate Lori's trust there. Lori had told you she didn't want to go there due to the short term nature of the medic rotation. It was a one-nighter between you twom and something she herself said she didn't want. Dana is her own individual, they were not in a partnership at the time.

If you open your mouth about it, you set yourself up for all kinds of possible drama, which can go multiple ways, to include Dana and Lori getting in a lot of trouble because "don't ask, don't tell" still exists, and of course the G.O. #1 violation.

I'll put money on it that Lori already knows, regardless of you two not having said anything, it is not like those secrets get kept anyway. Noone has said anything, but having been on multiple deployments, everyone knows regardless of how "quiet" you kept it. The fact that you keep it quiet only weighs in your favor. I was a platoon sergeant the last time I went with a couple of Soldiers who started more drama. I didn't care as long as there was no drama, but start some drama and we dealt with it.

(For those that usually think us more civilized than this, please stop reading now.)

Dumbasarock10, you got some while deployed, it was a casual hook-up, and you do more harm opening your mouth about it. Don't go starting some drama by trying to let your friend know you slept with her girlfriend before they got together, Soldier on, and get your ass home intact to your girlfriend when your tour is up. You have way more to worry about than getting in between the two of them, espeically if you aren't a Fobbit.

07-02-2009, 11:10 AM	#10 (permalink)
Dave_kat Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 291 Location: Savannah, Ga Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Dave_kat	Re: Broken trust. But I didn't mean it. ok. From our "Dave" here, who also happens to be active duty military. I'm not going to go into all of the Army regulations here, but simply to mention them to have you keep them in the back of your mind while I tell you the rest of this. I specifically speak of General Order 1 (For you non-military out there, it's the one that specifices that deployed Soldiers will not have sexual relations while deployed). You have a problem, and the best advice you're going to hear on this is keep your mouth shut. They weren't together when you and Dana hooked up, so you didn't violate Lori's trust there. Lori had told you she didn't want to go there due to the short term nature of the medic rotation. It was a one-nighter between you twom and something she herself said she didn't want. Dana is her own individual, they were not in a partnership at the time. If you open your mouth about it, you set yourself up for all kinds of possible drama, which can go multiple ways, to include Dana and Lori getting in a lot of trouble because "don't ask, don't tell" still exists, and of course the G.O. #1 violation. I'll put money on it that Lori already knows, regardless of you two not having said anything, it is not like those secrets get kept anyway. Noone has said anything, but having been on multiple deployments, everyone knows regardless of how "quiet" you kept it. The fact that you keep it quiet only weighs in your favor. I was a platoon sergeant the last time I went with a couple of Soldiers who started more drama. I didn't care as long as there was no drama, but start some drama and we dealt with it. (For those that usually think us more civilized than this, please stop reading now.) Dumbasarock10, you got some while deployed, it was a casual hook-up, and you do more harm opening your mouth about it. Don't go starting some drama by trying to let your friend know you slept with her girlfriend before they got together, Soldier on, and get your ass home intact to your girlfriend when your tour is up. You have way more to worry about than getting in between the two of them, espeically if you aren't a Fobbit.
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