[Trace Ekies]

We have not played with friends. Prior to our lifestyle involvement we only had about two friends and we never considered them as play partners.

It would seem to me that spontenaity would be crucial to a successful event that crossed so many lines for non-lifestylers. Planning something that can be so personal takes a certain mind-set that not everyone has and the "heat of the moment" can, as Julie suggested, level the playing field or be an "equalizer".

As experienced swingers, we would wonder if a vanilla couple might feel a bit "ambushed" if they found out about our "hobby" after a sexual liason with us. I can imagine them saying something like "They set us up" and then feeling that the assumed spontenaity was just a ruse to get them in bed.

This is all based on opinion and is not backed with facts due to no experience with a situation of this sort.

Trace