The Swingers Board - View Single Post - What do we do to fix this? Performance Anxiety

tiger4play · 07-02-2009, 02:29 AM

Yes...this is normal. Actually for M and F swingers..... it is really hard to concentrate sometimes with so much going on around you both while trying to play. Hubbie and I were at a club recently and during 6 or 7 hours of on-and-off play we each had trouble for one reason or another reaching an orgasm. People talking loudly while being voyeurs, got too hot in the room, and not feeling comfortable with the other players.
I agree with DE BBC.... don't go to drugs just yet. Give it a few more tries and abstain a couple of days prior to playing and see if it doesn't improve naturally. Once you get comfortable and are excited, it should help a lot.
Also, try and experience activities you enjoy when you are home at the party i.e. videos, watching others play, flirt or experience foreplay more intensely prior to wanting to have sex. In other words, make yourself as horny as possible then give it a try.... might work! I know it would with me!

07-02-2009, 02:29 AM	#5 (permalink)
tiger4play Here to Stay Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 28 Location: Vista, California Status: S Female	Re: what do we do to fix this? Yes...this is normal. Actually for M and F swingers..... it is really hard to concentrate sometimes with so much going on around you both while trying to play. Hubbie and I were at a club recently and during 6 or 7 hours of on-and-off play we each had trouble for one reason or another reaching an orgasm. People talking loudly while being voyeurs, got too hot in the room, and not feeling comfortable with the other players. I agree with DE BBC.... don't go to drugs just yet. Give it a few more tries and abstain a couple of days prior to playing and see if it doesn't improve naturally. Once you get comfortable and are excited, it should help a lot. Also, try and experience activities you enjoy when you are home at the party i.e. videos, watching others play, flirt or experience foreplay more intensely prior to wanting to have sex. In other words, make yourself as horny as possible then give it a try.... might work! I know it would with me!