The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Moving at the speed of molasses

**cplnuswing** · 07-01-2009, 07:03 PM

Pretty quick we got to where we got frustrated with the whole online thing, and prefer to use our limited opportunities on M&Gs and clubs since we know we likely will have a good time regardless.

But, having said that, if we do get an online contact that seems promising, we suggest a brief chat before setting up a meet. Not an absolute requirement, but we have had contacts we were interested in that after the chat we no longer were, so we figure it's a time saver in the end for everyone instead of sitting through an awkward meet.

Based on a small sample since we don't do much of the online stuff to start with, there does seem to be an upswing in the impossible to schedule meets. It's not like we have every weekend free either, but c'mon, you want to meet or you don't. A month is plenty of time.

I wonder if the chat/email forever, impossible to schedule people really want it to go further? Just because we are interested enough to meet in person certainly doesn't mean we will be willing to hook up, in fact, the majority of times we won't be, but if we think they are someone we might enjoy meet in person regardless, we'll meet.

Maybe what we are seeing is an upswing in people for whom actual face to face meeting is more toe than they want to dip in?

07-01-2009, 07:03 PM	#15 (permalink)
cplnuswing Lifestyle Mentor Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,372 Location: Georgia Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:gawildstreak	Re: Moving at the light speed of molasses... Pretty quick we got to where we got frustrated with the whole online thing, and prefer to use our limited opportunities on M&Gs and clubs since we know we likely will have a good time regardless. But, having said that, if we do get an online contact that seems promising, we suggest a brief chat before setting up a meet. Not an absolute requirement, but we have had contacts we were interested in that after the chat we no longer were, so we figure it's a time saver in the end for everyone instead of sitting through an awkward meet. Based on a small sample since we don't do much of the online stuff to start with, there does seem to be an upswing in the impossible to schedule meets. It's not like we have every weekend free either, but c'mon, you want to meet or you don't. A month is plenty of time. I wonder if the chat/email forever, impossible to schedule people really want it to go further? Just because we are interested enough to meet in person certainly doesn't mean we will be willing to hook up, in fact, the majority of times we won't be, but if we think they are someone we might enjoy meet in person regardless, we'll meet. Maybe what we are seeing is an upswing in people for whom actual face to face meeting is more toe than they want to dip in?