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Adadls · 06-30-2009, 06:36 PM

First off, Thanks all for responding and giving your advice. My wife seems most comfortable with this guy, and based off of when they have talked, she tells me that he is very cool about it, no pressure, etc. My wife and I have talked this subject to death, and I know we still have to talk about it much more before we do it. It still won't happen for about 2 months, but it pretty much takes up the entire day of conversation. My friend and I have talked about it a lot as well, and now my wife and my friend are talking about it, just the two of them as well. She has had a lot of barriers to break through on this one, and I have been very careful not to push and let her go her own pace. And I must say, regardless of if this happens or not, I have never felt closer to her than this. I am learning much about myself and her in the process, and am finally learning to trust her implicitly, it's a very good feeling. We all three are supposed to have a sit down now and talk about it some, you know, setting the rules and all. I guess we all feel that nothing weird would happen. I mean I know there's a huge risk, but like my wife says, if it was going to happen, with him it wouldn't be such a big deal. I guess another thing that I forgot to add earlier was that he has never done anything sexual with any girl (except strip poker :P). Now I know this adds another dynamic to the whole issue of a threesome. She feels more comfortable knowing that he is inexperienced and that he won't have any expectations, but she also feels bad being his first. I feel bad because I am putting him in a weird position, but I feel good because I am not threatened by him sexually at least. Obviously we still have a lot to talk about, and I am still not sure I am going to go through with it, but I certainly appreciate all the advice and thanks a lot TNT for your post in particular, it kept my wife and I up all night talking about it :P lol. I know the relationship is going to change, and I will admit that's what worries me the most about this, I love them both very much, and sure this will add more excitement to our lives, but I am not sure it's worth giving up either or both of them because of my jealousy or something else we haven't thought of.

06-30-2009, 06:36 PM	#8 (permalink)
Adadls Registered Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 4 Location: South Carolina Status: Couple	Re: First time, considering a close friend First off, Thanks all for responding and giving your advice. My wife seems most comfortable with this guy, and based off of when they have talked, she tells me that he is very cool about it, no pressure, etc. My wife and I have talked this subject to death, and I know we still have to talk about it much more before we do it. It still won't happen for about 2 months, but it pretty much takes up the entire day of conversation. My friend and I have talked about it a lot as well, and now my wife and my friend are talking about it, just the two of them as well. She has had a lot of barriers to break through on this one, and I have been very careful not to push and let her go her own pace. And I must say, regardless of if this happens or not, I have never felt closer to her than this. I am learning much about myself and her in the process, and am finally learning to trust her implicitly, it's a very good feeling. We all three are supposed to have a sit down now and talk about it some, you know, setting the rules and all. I guess we all feel that nothing weird would happen. I mean I know there's a huge risk, but like my wife says, if it was going to happen, with him it wouldn't be such a big deal. I guess another thing that I forgot to add earlier was that he has never done anything sexual with any girl (except strip poker :P). Now I know this adds another dynamic to the whole issue of a threesome. She feels more comfortable knowing that he is inexperienced and that he won't have any expectations, but she also feels bad being his first. I feel bad because I am putting him in a weird position, but I feel good because I am not threatened by him sexually at least. Obviously we still have a lot to talk about, and I am still not sure I am going to go through with it, but I certainly appreciate all the advice and thanks a lot TNT for your post in particular, it kept my wife and I up all night talking about it :P lol. I know the relationship is going to change, and I will admit that's what worries me the most about this, I love them both very much, and sure this will add more excitement to our lives, but I am not sure it's worth giving up either or both of them because of my jealousy or something else we haven't thought of.