We don't do chats, either. We feel we have enough chatty friends. We solely rely on the internet for meeting with people. There isn't a club around here for 400 miles. We do like M&G's and some house parties (they're pretty few and far between anymore), and you can always invite them there. If they're a no show, you can still have a great time.
It says somewhere in our profile that we don't do endless chats. We can exchange an email or two and then meet when we can all find the time to meet up. This has worked for us and there hasn't been a couple that we've found that just wants the comfort of talking at home. I'm sure you're frustrated.
If I was in your shoes, I think I'd give them a deadline. Poop or get off the pot, so to speak. "Let's meet on such and such date, or we feel we need to move on". I know that sounds rather blunt, but I wouldn't hesitate saying that, either.
I am woman, hear me roar!
