[Additude]

Unless it's the womans idea, it's a process pal and your just going to have to pay your dues like many of us before you and suffer through the process.

That's all it is. Her mind needs to switch from the fantasy island sex to realistic recreational sex. Society has molded her mind to believe one man, one woman, one marriage, one sex partner.

Men are far more promiscious than women, however women (I speak in general terms here, I know it's not true for all women) have a deeper, more controlled promiscuity that needs to be un-bonded of social rules by methodical mind-set cognition. Which means that she is just going to have to work into it and that just takes time.

If you force it....1. (How Men Think) you'll be on a path of trouble.....if you allow it to take it's course....2. (How Women Think) you may be in for a life of sexual freedom, a new outlook on your relationship and a new outlook on life in general.

So keep the swinging idea in the foreground, let the woman know it's about her and you love her and only her and let it take it's course.

Don't think your wife is only into the fantasy and not the reality. She is into the reality of it...that's exactly why she is being cautious and focused.