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Originally Posted by isikar  It's interesting that you should ask that question because both my wife and I take pride in using logic and reason to make decisions. So if we reach that point where I believe that she has done as you say, i.e. weighed her options and made a rational decision, not from the gut, then I would drop it. Now, the corollary to that is, if not swinging, then what? We have both concluded that our sex life is in a rut, and I have brought swinging to the table as an option. If it is off the table, then what? That's probably a question for a marriage counselor and not a swingers forum, but it is a legitimate question. |
Ok cool. I was concerned that you were always going to view it as a sales job that can be overcome. That is probably true and even a woman who doesn't really want to do it could probably be convinced to try it anyway; but that generally doesn't end well.
I'll reply more fully to the original post in a little bit with some additional thoughts. But briefly; if your sexlife is stale and boring right now I would suggest finding a way to make it exciting just between the two of you without the fantasies of swinging involved. Explore the swinging when you have a healthy and exciting sex life and want to add even more to that. Using swinging to spice it up has a good chance of leading to bad things IMO. So explore the "what else" first.