First....
to the Board.
Now to your question.
Playing with a friend is not something that you will find is recommended. The main thing you need to know is that the dynamics of the relationship WILL change. There is no way it can't...you've introduce sex into the equation.
How it changes will be determined by how strong the friendship is...it will either ruin the friendship or it's possible that the friendship will remain intact with an added dimension to it. Either way it WILL change.
You first need to decide how important the friendship is...how much will it effect you if you lose it? You also need to think about what happens if you don't lose the friendship...where will things go from here?
One of the main differences in swinging with friends and swinging with those that you've met specifically for swinging is that with friends there are emotions involved. Most of us love our close vanilla friends to some degree or another and emotions being involved makes sex a bit different...even if it's just a friendship type of emotion.
We have played with vanilla friends and things have turned out great. However, there are numerous people here on the board who have also played with vanilla friends and things have not turned out so great.
Even though our experiences have been great it's NOT something we recommend, especially for those who are just thinking about and/or just getting started in swinging.
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Originally Posted by Adadls I admit to feeling some jealousy as we talk about it, but it's something that I can reason myself through and eventually talk myself into understanding. This guy and I are like brothers, and when I asked him about it, he said to make sure that the trust was between my wife and myself before trying anything, because it will be a huge issue between us otherwise. |
If you are feeling jealous in any way, this is definitely something that needs to be discussed more...whether you decide to play with your friend or someone you meet just for playing. Jealousy is not good when it comes to swinging.
Your friend is right...you and your wife need to make sure there is total trust between the two of you before you go any further in swinging. If you do not have total trust and honesty between you and your wife, things will not go good.
Take a bit of time to explore the board more. There are many topics here with great discussions and advice. Bring your wife here with you and you two read together. I promise reading the board will give you loads of things to think about and discuss between yourselves, as well as giving you a better understanding of what swinging is all about.
Teresa