[The Fuse]

JandCMI,

You sound like a very nice couple with some real skin in the game, and I'm sorry this happened to you.

My husband and I have a general policy of keeping all lifestyle contacts away from our Facebook pages. Interestingly enough, we made our first exception.... yesterday. It's someone who lives several states away and we're not likely to see, and if we see them we're not likely to play with them. I recently had a former playmate contact me and want to become Facebook friends, and I just said no.

I definitely agree with your "takeaway lesson" of keeping the FB and lifestyle arenas separate.

About what happened to you, I can definitely understand why that would bother you. Why your friends would bullshit you like that, I don't know. And doing it in favor of someone else you don't like... that does hurt. I hope that a few months down the road your friends are contacting you and saying they are changing their minds again. I think you are right to let it go, though. Pursuing someone in search of an explanation is not usually a good thing.

By the way, I really like your profile.