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Adadls · 06-29-2009, 01:20 AM

Hey all,

I am sure this has been asked before, but my wife and I have been married for about 5 years now, and we have a solid and amazing relationship. She has always been on the "conservative" side with sex, but occasionally she has breakthroughs where she will astound and amaze me, (i.e. with oral sex, which she said she will never do, or anal, etc). A couple of days ago, I suggested during one of our make-out times a MMF threesome. I would love to do this, have always wanted to, and I feel secure enough in our relationship that nothing will happen with the other guy. Well she responded that she is willing to try it, and the more we talk about it, and set rules and guidelines, the more she is getting into it. The thing is, we are not comfortable doing it with a stranger, and I have a friend who I am close to (in a non-sexual way, really not interested in bi-love or anything like that), that is, at least I believe, mature enough to handle this and not let anything funny happen. We three are all pretty close as it is, we have played strip poker before and just had some fun, but we, or I at least in this case, have never suggested going any further. I admit to feeling some jealousy as we talk about it, but it's something that I can reason myself through and eventually talk myself into understanding. This guy and I are like brothers, and when I asked him about it, he said to make sure that the trust was between my wife and myself before trying anything, because it will be a huge issue between us otherwise. Well, now that I made this way longer than it needs to be, I guess I can get down to my question. Should we do this? I mean I feel that we are cool with it, and if anything my wife and I have gotten much closer just talking about this. Should we do this with my friend? He's someone I trust implicitly as well, and I am sure that some intimacy has to happen between him and her, but I am comfortable with that. And finally because it is with my friend, where does it stop? For example, should we enjoy this and do this multiple times with him, I really don't want him becoming the "other husband" if you know what I mean. Really sorry to make this such a long post, but I really would like for all the details to be out there so everyone can give an honest opinion. Thanks all!

06-29-2009, 01:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
Adadls Registered Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 4 Location: South Carolina Status: Couple	First time, considering a close friend Hey all, I am sure this has been asked before, but my wife and I have been married for about 5 years now, and we have a solid and amazing relationship. She has always been on the "conservative" side with sex, but occasionally she has breakthroughs where she will astound and amaze me, (i.e. with oral sex, which she said she will never do, or anal, etc). A couple of days ago, I suggested during one of our make-out times a MMF threesome. I would love to do this, have always wanted to, and I feel secure enough in our relationship that nothing will happen with the other guy. Well she responded that she is willing to try it, and the more we talk about it, and set rules and guidelines, the more she is getting into it. The thing is, we are not comfortable doing it with a stranger, and I have a friend who I am close to (in a non-sexual way, really not interested in bi-love or anything like that), that is, at least I believe, mature enough to handle this and not let anything funny happen. We three are all pretty close as it is, we have played strip poker before and just had some fun, but we, or I at least in this case, have never suggested going any further. I admit to feeling some jealousy as we talk about it, but it's something that I can reason myself through and eventually talk myself into understanding. This guy and I are like brothers, and when I asked him about it, he said to make sure that the trust was between my wife and myself before trying anything, because it will be a huge issue between us otherwise. Well, now that I made this way longer than it needs to be, I guess I can get down to my question. Should we do this? I mean I feel that we are cool with it, and if anything my wife and I have gotten much closer just talking about this. Should we do this with my friend? He's someone I trust implicitly as well, and I am sure that some intimacy has to happen between him and her, but I am comfortable with that. And finally because it is with my friend, where does it stop? For example, should we enjoy this and do this multiple times with him, I really don't want him becoming the "other husband" if you know what I mean. Really sorry to make this such a long post, but I really would like for all the details to be out there so everyone can give an honest opinion. Thanks all!