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Pardon the heresy, but what are peoples' thoughts?

We tend to use craigslist more than lifestyle sites. While there is a lot of flim-flammery on craigslist, it's easy enough to post an ad and ignore the spammers and pic collectors. There's something to be said for anonymity; no one knows if we have seen their reply, liked their pics, decided they are fake, or whatever. By and large we have had really good luck with craigslist over the years.

On the flip side, we have met exactly one couple on a lifestyle site. It seems that because of the lack of anonymity (lifestyle sites always involve a profile), no one is willing to actually meet up. After all, what if it goes badly? Now you've severed more than one connection, and you could get a bad reputation.

The only downside to craigslist is too many newbies; not that being new is bad, we were all new once, but there are lots of people who are just flirting with the idea of swinging or don't really know what they want. This is probably due to the ease of advertising on craigs - no need to make a permanent home for yourself.

So what does everyone think? It's clear a lot of people like lifestyle sites, but it's also clear there are frustrations there.