Hey all,
We started to get a fair bit of contact on Swing Lifestyle lately (seems like people play more in the summer). The issue we've been running into is not ever being able to get everyone involved onto the same page with regards to timeline. I'm not finding a clear way of saying this, so I'll try a recent example...
We were contacted by a couple that we found attractive, so we suggested that we meet for coffee or drinks to check out chemistry. They felt they'd rather chat a bit over IM first. Okay, fine - although, we've been going through a lot of so-called "endless chats" of late, so we were a bit hesitant to even bother. And, on a side note, what is it with people who initiate contact and can't pull the trigger on even a vanilla meetup? We sent a few messages back and forth, but their connection kept dropping so we went about our lives for the next few days. We'd occasionally get Swing Lifestyle emails saying things like "good morning," and "U on?" Not much to really respond to as far as we're concerned, but we'd say hello and just maintain a bit of contact. So today we get an email asking why we weren't interested in meeting anymore.
So, when we wanted to meet, you wanted to chat. But now it's meeting time? So we proposed a meeting (again, vanilla) - and now they want to chat more first?
Since this has started to become a pattern, we're really starting to doubt the value of trying to hook-up online. Are we just expecting too much by asking people to meet before chatting for ages (or, for that matter, meet at all)?