 Re: Poly vs Swinging
Speaking for a Poly threesome, Anna was my girlfriend in high school and my first lay. She and my wife have been best friends since 7th grade. Our relationship was borne out of having a great love for someone that we naturally wanted to extend into the sexual realm. It wasn't "we want to swing, but only with one person." The relationship came first.
And just like with a long-term partner, we spend more time doing other things with Anna than we do fucking her. If we didn't genuinely love Anna, it wouldn't have worked for this long.
That being said, Kari and I have had a number of other sexual encounters just for the sexiness of them, and Anna is free to hook up with other mates (although she hasn't chosen to in a long while now.)
In my simplistic view, Poly is about the relationship first, which blossoms into sex. Swinging is about wanting a particular sexual experience and then going out to find like-minded people who can help accommodate that sexual desire.
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