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swvacouplelookn · 06-24-2009, 09:16 AM

Wife and I have discussed an MFM with someone she had a solo playdate with recently. Actually, we had been with this man and his wife once previously as well. So, we're all familiar with each other, etc.

The solo playdate was really more of a one time thing. We have decided we will only play together from here on out, not because of anything negative from the playdate, just because we realized we always want to be together.

So having enjoyed this man's company, my wife asked him if he'd want to participate in an MFM. He said that he would definitely want to do that. He then asked what I considered a bit of an off question. (Keep in mind that they enjoyed quite a bit of kissing and making out on their solo date.) He asked her if I would be comfortable seeing them kiss that much when we're all 3 together.

Now that might have been a simple innocent question, but it really rubs me the wrong way. To me, it implies that he feels they did something on their solo date that I wouldn't have approved. My wife and I both enjoy lots of kissing and foreplay with others, and I have seen the two of them together as well. So, I am a little puzzled by his question. I feel like there are three likely reasons he asked this:

1. He is expressing genuine consideration for my feelings (albeit he has kissed her quite a bit when we were all together).

2. He feels guilty like they did something HE wouldn't have approved of with his wife and a solo playdate in kissing so much, etc.

3. He may not be so much into the MFM, rather would want to have her by himself. He has definitely expressed interest in having her again!

What do you guys think? It may very well be silly of me to question this, but I just have a weird instinct or something. It just struck me as a very odd question from him.

06-24-2009, 09:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
swvacouplelookn Here to Stay Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 76 Location: Southwest Virginia Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:swvacouplelooking	MFM Threesome: Is he showing genuine consideration of our kissing boundaries? Wife and I have discussed an MFM with someone she had a solo playdate with recently. Actually, we had been with this man and his wife once previously as well. So, we're all familiar with each other, etc. The solo playdate was really more of a one time thing. We have decided we will only play together from here on out, not because of anything negative from the playdate, just because we realized we always want to be together. So having enjoyed this man's company, my wife asked him if he'd want to participate in an MFM. He said that he would definitely want to do that. He then asked what I considered a bit of an off question. (Keep in mind that they enjoyed quite a bit of kissing and making out on their solo date.) He asked her if I would be comfortable seeing them kiss that much when we're all 3 together. Now that might have been a simple innocent question, but it really rubs me the wrong way. To me, it implies that he feels they did something on their solo date that I wouldn't have approved. My wife and I both enjoy lots of kissing and foreplay with others, and I have seen the two of them together as well. So, I am a little puzzled by his question. I feel like there are three likely reasons he asked this: 1. He is expressing genuine consideration for my feelings (albeit he has kissed her quite a bit when we were all together). 2. He feels guilty like they did something HE wouldn't have approved of with his wife and a solo playdate in kissing so much, etc. 3. He may not be so much into the MFM, rather would want to have her by himself. He has definitely expressed interest in having her again! What do you guys think? It may very well be silly of me to question this, but I just have a weird instinct or something. It just struck me as a very odd question from him.