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Old 06-23-2009, 07:01 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Default Re: Am I being a control-freak?

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Originally Posted by LikeMinds321 View Post
Why the heck would your wife go out "socially" by herself with this guy, and you and her not think it was going to lead to sex, especially since you already knew this guy's intent was to play with your wife, AND you and your wife already decided it was okay if she played with him?
Because we all (both couples are friends) and both myself and Mrs. Pill made it clear to the husband that this would be purely social.

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Did you have some rule against them playing? If you did you didn't mention it in your OP, I got the opposite impression...you agreed to bring in a solo playmate for your wife.
Yes, we did. Both she and I agreed this would be purely social...

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Also, did you talk to his wife about her husband playing solo with your wife?
Yes, because we talk with the wife as well...


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Originally Posted by Ripley & Ender View Post
....And if one drink = four hours without notice or communication, why would it ever be okay with you for them to "have lunch" when you know that "have lunch" could turn into "shag like mad" just as easily as "one drink" turned into "lost track of time"?
Thank you. This was exactly my problem with the situation and, like most times, it was difficult for me to verbalize it. I will make sure Mrs. Pill knows that.
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