[The Fuse]

Sorry this happened to you. We've experienced this kind of thing too. One member of the group decides there's something about you they don't like, and suddenly you're getting the cold shoulder from most of or all of their friends. We try to make decisions about people based on our own experiences with them. If there is someone whose judgment we trust, and they say something negative about a third party, we listen but take it with a grain of salt.

I do believe there are a lot of people out there who, in spite of being swingers, still lack independent thought and have fear of what their friends will think. I'm sure some of our friends wonder how we can even talk to so-and-so, and I don't like thinking we might lose people we like over it. But I'd rather have that happen then let their opinion dictate what I do.