[JustAskJulie]

If full-swap intercourse were still on the table, I could probably manage to survive swinging without oral. BUT (and it's a bit BUT), I'd rather give up kissing than give up GIVING oral sex when it comes to swinging. I could give up receiving oral sex without a problem, but it is one of my favorite things to give it and watch/feel the pleasure on someone else's face/body.

Unfortunately, as I said, due to the way intercourse causes my entire body to tense up, it's even being limited between the two of us. As it was we were barely on the border of full swap. We'd worked out way there before our break last year and lost a huge amount of our comfort level due to that break. So now we were in the process of working out way back with a couple of couples that we are comfortable with. So basically for us it would be/had become an issue of trying to soft-swing without oral sex (at least without me giving it) and somehow for me that just doesn't seem to leave anything. Since giving oral is probably my greatest pleasure within swinging, anyway.

Which leaves me not able to do much of anything when it comes to swinging. It sucks big donkey balls! That's why we've basically opted to more or less take a break from actually playing and just enjoy the social aspects at this point. It's not to say that if something came up that neither of us could resist and we didn't know if there'd easily be another chance at them later, I'd probably risk the pain I'd feel the next day for the fun I'd have that night.