You all have great sex, I can tell!! And hubbie and I concur with all of you! One thing we do to modify is put pillows under my tummy to raise me 5 to 8 inches and have I slide my legs through his. This seems to make me tighter and I can finger myself at the same time because I am not needing to hold myself up (so to speak). And I CAN cum doing it this way.... yummy! Just an idea....