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***JustAskJulie*** · 06-20-2009, 12:25 PM

This is something we've been discussing a bit lately and the recent topic on "keeping down with the jones's" brought it to the forefront of my mind to create a topic and get others POVs.

I've posted elsewhere on here about my struggle the last year with TMJ. A few of you know what I'm dealing with (as you are dealing with it too). There are a lot of things that I do that I shouldn't be doing in an effort to correct the problem sooner and get back to a normal life. At this point I've been instructed to be a couch potato from the chest up. There are certain things that I know will bother me and set me back or at least leave me sore for a few days. There are times when even sex is not a good thing (I never realized how much you tense your entire body just before you orgasm - and to make it worse when I feel my body tensing up at that point I fight it which just makes it worse).

So the question is oral sex. I can give it without much pain in the process (although at times I will have to stop due to pain when I'm giving it), however if I don't have pain while in the action I will most likely pay for it the next day in tightness in my neck and jaw. So, really, it's something that if I'm thinking I avoid (because I know the consequences).

Realizing all of this we've basically decided to back off on really any swinging for a while until I get past this (just one more thing I've had to give up to get past this). But, I'm curious. If we didn't choose to take a break from action altogether. How important do you feel that oral sex is in swinging? IMO, it's pretty important (which is part of why we are backing off). I just can't imagine swinging without it. I'm sure I've swung without it but I can't recall it. I can recall many a time where I didn't have sex with someone but I gave them oral, but I can't recall a time when I ever played with someone beyond making out on a dancefloor without oral being involved.

06-20-2009, 12:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Swinging Without Oral This is something we've been discussing a bit lately and the recent topic on "keeping down with the jones's" brought it to the forefront of my mind to create a topic and get others POVs. I've posted elsewhere on here about my struggle the last year with TMJ. A few of you know what I'm dealing with (as you are dealing with it too). There are a lot of things that I do that I shouldn't be doing in an effort to correct the problem sooner and get back to a normal life. At this point I've been instructed to be a couch potato from the chest up. There are certain things that I know will bother me and set me back or at least leave me sore for a few days. There are times when even sex is not a good thing (I never realized how much you tense your entire body just before you orgasm - and to make it worse when I feel my body tensing up at that point I fight it which just makes it worse). So the question is oral sex. I can give it without much pain in the process (although at times I will have to stop due to pain when I'm giving it), however if I don't have pain while in the action I will most likely pay for it the next day in tightness in my neck and jaw. So, really, it's something that if I'm thinking I avoid (because I know the consequences). Realizing all of this we've basically decided to back off on really any swinging for a while until I get past this (just one more thing I've had to give up to get past this). But, I'm curious. If we didn't choose to take a break from action altogether. How important do you feel that oral sex is in swinging? IMO, it's pretty important (which is part of why we are backing off). I just can't imagine swinging without it. I'm sure I've swung without it but I can't recall it. I can recall many a time where I didn't have sex with someone but I gave them oral, but I can't recall a time when I ever played with someone beyond making out on a dancefloor without oral being involved.