Thor - after re-reading a bit of your previous thread:
http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...share-him.html
I think your wife may have a bit of a self-esteem issue, and I don't know what you do to remind her constantly of how beautiful she is or what you might be saying that might re-enforce her lower self-esteem. But, the important thing is that you have to re-enforce her self esteem on a constant basis.
If you really do look like Brad Pitt and have women fawning all over you, and she does not feel that she gets that same reaction from guys then yes I can see where jealousy would ensue. And it's not even about the women being hotter, it's about feeling like she is getting less than you are out of the lifestyle.
Perhaps you have a great personality to go with your great looks and perhaps she is gorgeous but is just a bit on the shy side ( I don't know you so it's hard to say). If that is the case then it might be important for you to tone your personality down a bit to match hers. Or it might be that you go out of your way a bit more to make sure that she is pleased within the lifestyle - since it's so easy for you to be. Never EVER make a big deal about how hot a woman is to the point that she feels you BELIEVE this woman is hotter than she (your woman) is. If her self esteem is low, she's already going to feel and know which women are hotter (and she might be feeling so low that even women who aren't really hotter appear hotter to her). It's important for you to always make her feel like she's the hottest woman in the room.
To answer your original question - I will agree with TNT - my own self esteem is that that I can handle my Pet being with any woman who wants him and I am as likely to approach her for him as he is (probably moreso). However, there are days when I don't feel as good about myself. When maybe he hasn't paid me as many compliments during the week or I just haven't gotten out enough. On those days I need my ego stroked and it really wouldn't matter how ugly the woman was that he was interested in, I would fee slighted because I NEED HIM then.
She needs you. Make sure you are giving her what SHE needs before you even consider giving it to someone else.