[The Fuse]

Hello thor-in-vegas,

As we speak, we have a date coming up this weekend with a couple where the woman is like a little Barbie doll, with smaller, perky breasts (which are better than Barbie IMO) and a devilish smile. She is very very beautiful and way prettier than I am. Mr. Fuse is just beside himself, because not only is she gorgeous but because they seem to be a fantastic match in other ways.

I admit, I tend to be a little more comfortable when the other lady is not quite so outstanding. I don't like this in myself and it's not that easy to own up to. When I realized it some time ago, I had to realize my feelings were not something to be proud of. But it's a minor thing. I just remind myself that no matter how hot another guy has been to me, no matter how excited I have been about him, that feeling has never even come close to a threat to how I feel about my husband. So since I felt that way, I think my husband will too, when he is able to be with someone like that. I know his character and I know that even though she may blow his mind, he will be absolutely loyal to me.

So no, I've never told him "no" because another woman was better looking or sexier. But if I felt less secure, I might be tempted to find another reason to tell him no, like you suggested in your original post.

I actually feel more anxiety over being able to please the woman's husband than anything else. When he is used to that at home, I just feel like I have less to offer physically, and maybe even sexually, because she is very responsive. Well I am responsive too, but... anyway, you get the idea. The husband does seem into me, and I know in my head that just being new and different from his wife is a big deal.

So yes, I admit to feeling a little insecure when the other lady is so attractive. But my insecurity is minor, so I just deal with it.