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Originally Posted by mrfunfan  Trust that your man is sharing them with you because it makes him feel closer to you. I fantasize about sex, not love, and I am guilty of not knowing how much and when to share them. I'm curious to find out more from you too so I can understand more. |
I do believe that his desire to be with other women is purely sexual (just like his desire for me to be with other men), I think the issue lies in the way I've always understood relationships to work - that sex and love are synonymous. Of course, we've had sexual experiences together that were primal, but I feel that I am safe doing such things because I know that we love each other and it's ok to share such a part of myself with him - he'll be there after if I need to feel love and support as well. -Yet we share this little secret about how bad ass we are in bed.
When I think about him having little secrets with several other women, it feels like betrayal - like he doesn't want me to be a part of the picture anymore. I'm not in on the secret... and that doesn't feel good.
That's why I think that a group thing would work out really well! Then, we would
all have our little secret
together, which would keep my boyfriend and I involved with each other instead of divided from each other by outside people.
If this whole thing is really about him wanting to share everything with me, then any sexual situation we put ourselves in should be aimed at sharing with each other and keeping one another involved.
